SHE
My partner can’t let go and that’s why we keep arguing and arguing. He’s always right and everything must be just as he thinks it should be. I’ve had because I’d like to have something to say and to make some decisions. I can’t even talk to him because every time I talk about it, he says I’m talking nonsense and he just stops listening to me.
HE
My partner is terribly possessive and keeps paying attention to my behaviour. I don’t understand it because she’s behaving like me and I can’t pay attention this always causes an argument. I agree that in making decisions it is me who dominates the relationship, but nothing is strange about it. She’s always undecided, and I’m much more specific. Anyway, I don’t think we’re hearing from now on that women as a whole have much more trouble making decisions than men.
A relationship is, as the name suggests, a relationship between two people where they affect and complement each other and build a whole. We decide what our partnership should look like and on what principles it will work. Before we enter into a full and developed relationship it is worth considering what elements are important for us and what expectations we have from our partner. Unfortunately, most of us are already in a relationship and have probably never thought about these aspects. Perhaps you only hastily and emotionally decided to live together. Nothing is lost, you can still talk about it with your partner and establish the foundation of the relationship together. More and more often, when I look at the relationships around me, I encounter a strong sense of intimidation, and interestingly this is more often the case with men. They are the ones who are jealous and possessive of their partners and therefore control and limit them.
At this very moment it is worth mentioning the main message of this article: compromise.
What exactly are they?
It is the art of negotiation and communication, focusing on finding solutions that will suit two people in a relationship. This can be described as finding a golden mean for a relationship. Why is it so important? It teaches conversation, problem solving and understanding. It requires patience and calmness and it’s effects are astonishing. It has a very positive effect on the relationship because it can lead to a situation in which both parties are satisfied with the solution found.
How to start?
Sit down together in a comfortable place, with tea, coffee or juice. Think about what you would like to change in your relationship and share these insights. Together, decide whether you are able to combine your separate initiatives and make them into a whole, or whether you will alternate between the two ideas. It is important to respect the other person’s ideas and try to find a solution to the problem. This is the art of compromise. We don’t just think about ourselves, but focus on our partner and their expectations. We focuse on our partner and their expectations, and that is how we come to a civil point of view.
And then what?
The art of compromise will show!
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